Save the family - end marriage

[Roo]

What about when a man and a woman in a long-term relationship conceive a child, discuss their mutual desire to have the child, then years down the road decide to split? The financial burden of child-rearing falls solely on the woman because she didn't override her own and her then-husband/partner's desires to procreate and go get an abortion? The man is free to say **** you to the family he decided he wanted at one time, "I'm outta here and not giving you all another dime"? That's some ****ed up thinking dude.

As for marriage, I am not interested for various reasons. I've been with my girl for going-on 13 years and things are great. No need for certificates and expensive gatherings.

[sgreger1]

What about when a man and a woman in a long-term relationship conceive a child, discuss their mutual desire to have the child, then years down the road decide to split? The financial burden of child-rearing falls solely on the woman because she didn't override her own and her then-husband/partner's desires to procreate and go get an abortion? The man is free to say **** you to the family he decided he wanted at one time, "I'm outta here and not giving you all another dime"? That's some ****ed up thinking dude.

As for marriage, I am not interested for various reasons. I've been with my girl for going-on 13 years and things are great. No need for certificates and expensive gatherings.

Whoever has the child should be getting some help from the other partner, simply because they both have a stake in the child. What I don't like is that the women always ends up getting to keep the child after the divorce, and you have to pay them child support even if they make 100k and you are unemployed. I think they could just rewrite the laws a little to make it more fair and less in women's favor, but no need to do away with marriage.

[Roo]

Yeah there's plenty of room for improvement but the article advocates making the financial burden the sole responsibility of the mother, as if pops had nothing to do with it other than getting his dick wet. I say either be prepared to shoulder a 20-year financial burden or use birth control. Don't come bitchin' to me. I hear you about custody laws though, and also paying equal child-support to a woman who makes a ton of money. A more subjective approach makes a lot of sense.

[precious007]

Whoever has the child should be getting some help from the other partner, simply because they both have a stake in the child. What I don't like is that the women always ends up getting to keep the child after the divorce, and you have to pay them child support even if they make 100k and you are unemployed. I think they could just rewrite the laws a little to make it more fair and less in women's favor, but no need to do away with marriage.

That's a big issue... happens a lot in Romania as well. The women gets the child, however you get the rights to visit the children when you want..

[WickedKitchen]

How true! (When my girlfriend (now wife) moved into my apartment at that point I was married, in my mind.)

I settled down with a "foreign wife" who is not a slave by the way. Sometimes one can wish, lol.
If I would of taken the road of a fully westernized bossy career type woman, I have no doubt I would be a statistic by now.

Mine's Irish.