Sudden lack of luck with women?

[jmdkodiak]

Ok.. So I am 27. I've had a few long term relationships in my life. And lots of short ones, and lot's of REALLY short ones.. I have always, always had pretty good luck with women. Even women whom I was only friends with, always went out, had a great time, met friends of friends, generally friendly, sociable, etc. There hasn't really been a time in my adult life I haven't had SOME sort of woman around, even just as a friend, and usually more than a friend.

But lately, I don't know what the hell is wrong with me. No matter the girl, I can never get it right.

Scenario 1), girl in my platoon, always talked, chatted, everything, but nothing could ever manifest. Instantly it disappeared. She started dating an ex, whatever, but even then, the friendship disappeared too. We never even kissed. But it was like I did something horribly wrong. I never even saw her again after that, despite her texts wanting to see me again, she never followed through on any weekend.

Scenario 2) At the bar one night. Cute girl eyeing me.. Wouldn't take her eyes off of me. Smiling, non-stop until it was so obvious I just went right to the bar started talking. We sang karaoke, had some drinks, we both had friends with us of the same sex, so it was all friendly but playful. End of the night? Gone. Nothing.. At the end of the night I told her I had to leave as I had to wake up early in the morning and she said she and her friend were leaving too. I said we should do this again some time, nothing.. Awkward silence. Her friend was like "hey! phone number..." And she was like "oh." and told me her number... But it was REALLY awkward like I had said or done something really wrong?

Scenario 3) Friend of a friend. Out for dinner and drinks with friends. New friend comes along. Talkative, but she was a little shy. At the end of the night asked me for my Facebook which I gave her. Then. Nothing. Sent her a message a couple days later saying it was great to meet her and I'd like to see her again. Never a response back, UNTIL, Easter Sunday, same friend invites me over and said she was inviting New Friend along, too. So I went. Sat opposite of me everywhere, awkwardly stanced.. etc. Weird?? This scenario could be chalked up to maybe she just wasn't interested, but it's still important to include here I think.

Scenario 4) ex girlfriend who has been talking to me a lot lately. Couldn't wait to see me, wanted to be with me again, missed me so much. Talked dirty to me all the time. Then, Boom. Nothing. Like a brick wall. Tells me today that she has a lot going on in life and wants to pursue her own future by herself and that she was sorry she led me on. And that she liked her bartender who is 15 years older than her.

Scenario 5) in training, a girl who I had gone to EMT school with started writing me letters. Before I left we kind of started seeing each other. Were sleeping together, hanging out, the usual. Once I went to training she wrote me a ton of letters all the time, we talked, I saw her again on Christmas leave and it was like nothing had changed! Ecstatic. Perfect. Then 2 days into my leave, nothing. Didn't want to see me anymore. Told me she "couldn't be with someone in the military." (note: 2 weeks later, my friend told me she got a boyfriend, who, guess it... was in the Army. haha)

None of this would be relevant if this wasn't a 100% occuring event. Coupled with the fact that these are all SUPER lame excuses makes me think it's something I am doing wrong? I am doing nothing different than I have ever done. It just seems strange to me that this keeps happening. Repeatedly. It's starting to make me pretty jaded.

So any ideas? Tips? Advice?

[jmdkodiak]

I'll add that I am constantly more and more adventurous, do more and more activities, and I am in the best shape I have ever been in my life also. So it's not like I have turned into some lame duck or anything.

[Premium Parrots]

I'll make this real simple..........it just might be time to take a shower dude

[kevs]

Hey jm, there's a pretty good thread here with lots of advice, just type "fleshlight" into the search! And also you definitely want to contact with EricHill78, trust me.



/jk

[heders]

Maybe you have bad breath because of snus? Or maybe something other related to snus... a fat lip of lös is sadly not something women in general find sexy, lol.

I have the worst luck with women, and have always had. I've had a few shots with some gals (really hot ones!!) but for example, one wanted to stay friends after fooling around and the other I didn't dare to tell the truth about how I felt too, so she started dating someone else. I'm by no means bad looking, or am bad in socializing, but as for the whole bar scene; I for some reason find the whole hooking up "game" pretty ridiculous and shallow, which makes me generally not really bother. I also live in a pretty small and isolated place with women that are not of my taste. It will be another story when I move, at least I hope.

[desirexe]

27 eh?? If you are seeing girls this age, they may be looking for more than a few good dates...perhaps you are lacking the future husband/father quality that these women may subconciously be seeking?? I just say this because you say that you haven't changed..but many women may change as they get older...just a thought...

[Ainkor]

No clue man. I've really never dated though. I've been with my wife since we were 16.

Here is what I would do though:

Go to a bar or a club and find the hottest girl there. Make a proposition to her: I'm not having luck with women. Your hot, help me out here and I'll help you out with some repair work, tire change or something not even sexually related. I just need some honest advice from someone not attached to me.

You might strike out a few times, but I bet you get lucky and find someone who will let you know what's up. You might even get a girl that way

[SnusoMatic]

when i was young sometimes i thought all the girls were taken or would not have an interest in me. now with grown kids (all in twenties) and seeing my friends kids i know that there is like a slew of girls out there wishing they could meet you. If they ain't married ask them out. if it turns out no good then ask another one.

there's a joke... in a bar.... a man sees another man and every girl that walks by he grabs her butt and she slaps him. next girl walks by and same thing, over and over all night he gets the pee slapped out of him. so first man ask him "why are you doing that? you know you're gonna get slapped." Other man says, "sure, but sooner or later one won't slap me".

I ain't saying go grab butts but don't give up. as my daddy always told me... how are they gonna know you're available if you don't let them know?

[sgreger1]

27 eh?? If you are seeing girls this age, they may be looking for more than a few good dates...perhaps you are lacking the future husband/father quality that these women may subconciously be seeking?? I just say this because you say that you haven't changed..but many women may change as they get older...just a thought...

This is probably the most sound advice in this thread. At ~30 girls get a subconscious cue to think a little differently. Whereas men can stay in frat boy mode for a decent part of their life (since they are built for endless mating), females start to look for different things as time goes on.

I guess the main question is, "What are you trying to accomplish here"? Are you looking for a one night stand, a consistent **** buddy, a g/f, a potential wife? All of those scenarios require a different strategy, and something that attracts a one time fling for example will not work with getting a wife and vice versa. So define what it is you want before worrying about how you will proceed. I am guessing you are just looking for some casual lovin, up to and including potentially a steady girlfriend. My answer to that is just keep doing what you do until it comes around. I have never been the type to pursue girls, I usually wait until one seems to like me and if I like her back I give her the time of day. I have found that going out and seeking it just doesn't work for me, maybe the same is true in your scenario? Maybe you should just play it cool and eventually some girl will want you, and you can decide at that time if you want her back.

And also, girls (well, usually younger girls, but it applies to older ones too I imagine) want things they can't have. If you make yourself too available or appear desperate than it sends them bad vibes for some reason and they will look for a better challenge. Just play it cool and wait it out, you are having a dry spell but that will end eventually. I wouldn't really think about it too much.

[Snusdog]

You know..............if your pecker's small.................eventually word gets out......


Seriously though.............sounds like nothing but a cold spell.............I always found when I stopped trying...........and let the game come to me................then.....er......well................


Oh who am I kidding...........better go ahead and contact EricHill

[sgreger1]

No clue man. I've really never dated though. I've been with my wife since we were 16.

Here is what I would do though:

Go to a bar or a club and find the hottest girl there. Make a proposition to her: I'm not having luck with women. Your hot, help me out here and I'll help you out with some repair work, tire change or something not even sexually related. I just need some honest advice from someone not attached to me.

You might strike out a few times, but I bet you get lucky and find someone who will let you know what's up. You might even get a girl that way

Even better, you can try my friend's strategy, known as the "Garris hypothesis". His theory proposes that many girls want to have sex just as much as men but don't want to be the one to ask. His math indicates that if you literally just ask 10 girls if they want to go somewhere alone (to shag), that roughly 1 in 10 will agree. Your success rate is directly proportional to the number of attempts, therefore increasing the number of propositions increases the statistical likelihood of success, and if you brute force it through enough propositions you will eventually find one who agrees. This only works for one night stands, but the math behind it seems logical to me.

Edit: It should be noted that the addendum to this is that the success rate is inversely proportional to how early in the night it is. As it gets later in the evening and the bar scene dies out, chances of success become more likely.

[Snusdog]

Even better, you can try my friend's strategy, known as the "Garris hypothesis". His theory proposes that many girls want to have sex just as much as men but don't want to be the one to ask. His math indicates that if you literally just ask 10 girls if they want to go somewhere alone (to shag), that roughly 1 in 10 will agree. Your success rate is directly proportional to the number of attempts, therefore increasing the number of propositions increases the statistical likelihood of success, and if you brute force it through enough propositions you will eventually find one who agrees. This only works for one night stands, but the math behind it seems logical to me.

Yes but the little detail the math leaves out is.........WHAT THAT ONE CONSCENTING CHICK LOOKS LIKE

For that you will need copious amounts of beer............and a liver transplant if you are especially horny

[Premium Parrots]

No clue man. I've really never dated though. I've been with my wife since we were 16.

Here is what I would do though:

Go to a bar and club the hottest girl there.

don't bother with the rest of Ainkors advice.

Make a proposition to her: I'm not having luck with women. Your hot, help me out here and I'll help you out with some repair work, tire change or something not even sexually related. I just need some honest advice from someone not attached to me.

You might strike out a few times, but I bet you get lucky and find someone who will let you know what's up. You might even get a girl that way

there I fixed that for you. now thats the most sound advice.

[precious007]

Even better, you can try my friend's strategy, known as the "Garris hypothesis". His theory proposes that many girls want to have sex just as much as men but don't want to be the one to ask. His math indicates that if you literally just ask 10 girls if they want to go somewhere alone (to shag), that roughly 1 in 10 will agree. Your success rate is directly proportional to the number of attempts, therefore increasing the number of propositions increases the statistical likelihood of success, and if you brute force it through enough propositions you will eventually find one who agrees. This only works for one night stands, but the math behind it seems logical to me.

Edit: It should be noted that the addendum to this is that the success rate is inversely proportional to how early in the night it is. As it gets later in the evening and the bar scene dies out, chances of success become more likely.

I have a friend, he's like 28 or 29 probably - this guy is simply out of the ordinary.

On a normal day he would ask ou just about 10 - 20 women (be it in a bar, on the beach ..... anywhere) ... I'm not joking....


He would hook up with a new girl like every 2 or 3 days ...................

I'm not that type of guy to be honest and never have been (hummmmm maybe I Shall push my luck more)

LoL

[Premium Parrots]

Hey J. have you tried switching teams?