My husband

[Christi]

Handed me $140 bucks this week and I am so excited.

He likes to make me beg for money and when he gave me the money to spend 'as I want' I actually cried tears of joy.

Made a big ole snus order and now have spending money for my trip this weekend!!!

[RobsanX]

This is why my wife and I have separate accounts. She has her money, I have mine, the bills get paid, and everyone is happy!

[LaZeR]

Edit: Ooops.. Wrong thread. ops:

[RedMacGregor]

he can get you to beg? that brings all sorts of imagery up.

[Christi]

Rob-I don't work, unless you count doing his laundry and raising his kids. Therefore he owes me some compensation, IMHO. I normally don't even have a dime in my purse, EVER. It gets so bad that my sister and mom are buying my kids clothes and my baby's diapers. He is awful about giving out money for ANYTHING that doesn't benefit him.

[sgreger1]

Christi, can I get your husbands phone #? I would like to subscribe to his newsletter 8)

[ladysnus]

Rob-I don't work, unless you count doing his laundry and raising his kids. Therefore he owes me some compensation, IMHO. I normally don't even have a dime in my purse, EVER. It gets so bad that my sister and mom are buying my kids clothes and my baby's diapers. He is awful about giving out money for ANYTHING that doesn't benefit him.

I would put a stop to mom and sister buying the diapers....sounds like your husband deserves to be shit on by your kids!

and YES, raising his kids and doing HIS laundry and everything else you do FOR HIM counts!

Begging for money?! that would so not go over well with me.
In my marriage, hers is mine and mine is hers and it's worked great for 10 yrs!
You deserve better Christi

[asidrave]

my wife and i have an understanding that we can buy whatever we want...providing the bills get paid, kids get taken care of and we have money in the bank...whatever is left over we can spend on what we want

[Premium Parrots]

my wife and i have an understanding that we can buy whatever we want...providing the bills get paid, kids get taken care of and we have money in the bank...whatever is left over we can spend on what we want

does she let you buy hookers?

[RedMacGregor]

i can count on one hand how many diapers i've changed with our youngest kid... I'm the checkbook of the family, she takes care of running things around the house.

[f. bandersnatch]

I think the most important thing is whether or not you feel that you are being taken advantage of. If you feel like someone is taking you for granted, they probably are.

[sgreger1]

I think that if one is not working, than they should get an allowance but can't expect much. Providing a house, stuff for the kids etc is expensive enough. But if he is spending it all on himself and not breaking you off with any, all while your family is paying for diapers etc, that's just plain wrong.

[Bigblue1]

I may be crazy, but i think it's none of all our business. If cristi were truly unhappy, she has recourse. I for one am kinda tired of her my husbands a dick post's. If he's that bad leave him. If he's not, then don't anonymously talk shit about your soulmate, when he can't defend himself.

?that's all? Except I feel for ya.....

Sorry this post pertains to other posts that came before.

[Christi]

Bigblue1-

I am sorry you feel that way about my venting posts. Most others come here to talk among friends about daily life, so I felt justified in doing the same thing. My relationship with my husband is complicated and really none of your business(esp since you don't seem to want to know). If my husband is a dick posts bother you so dang much, don't click on threads where the title says 'my husband'. Then you are sure to not read something you are 'kinda getting tried of'.

[Christi]

I think that if one is not working, than they should get an allowance but can't expect much. Providing a house, stuff for the kids etc is expensive enough. But if he is spending it all on himself and not breaking you off with any, all while your family is paying for diapers etc, that's just plain wrong.

We just discussed an allowance the other day. I think he is starting to understand how it sucks to be broke all the time. He is gonna cave I can feel it. I have really been busting my butt around the house and going out of my way to treat him special so I am sure he will see that.

As far as the diapers go, my mom and dad have bought the diapers for all 3 of my kids. This is how it happened. They own a business so they go to Sam's club once a week. I would have them pick them up in bulk and when we had the money we could pay them back. We have a running tab with them that is over $4,000 long. He pays them back weekly, in installments. Does it make him happy, no. Do my parents care that it isn't paid in full, no. Should he be the one to purchase the diapers now that we can afford it, yes. They just always ask me if I need anything and when I do I tell them knowing that I can get the things I need now and not worry about paying until later. Then he really can't bitch at me for needing things we(according to him) can't afford.