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  • rickcharles606
    Member
    • Mar 2009
    • 2307

    #16
    Well Jeff, again let me say that I feel your pain. Or have felt your pain. I'm going to let my wife read this, because your situation is almost exactly like mine, minus the e-cig attempt.

    Looking back at my situation, I know now that I handled it completely wrong in the beginning. I should have NEVER promised/told her that I'd quit. Really, I was just telling her what she wanted or needed to hear to get off the subject.

    At this point, you're probably gonna need to do some damage control, and back up and get her to agree to have a candid conversation on the benefits of snus vs cigarettes. It's probably going to be hard, considering all you've been through thus far. She'll do it, only because she loves you though.

    Once I fully was able to gain amy's attention on the tobacco subject, and sit her down and show her the studies, medical reports, etc that prove snus to be a healthier alternative to smoking. She was onboard. I further explained that nicotine is not what's bad for our bodies, it's the way that we "get" our nicotine that can harm us, and snus is the least harmful way. Once you gain agreement there, you'll explain that later after the cigarettes are a thing of the past, you can begin stepping yourself down to lower nicotine levels of snus, to quit that. BUT only if you chose to quit. Don't promise to do that...otherwise you're building yet another obstacle in the future.

    Point out to her that snus is and WILL save you money over cigarettes, and that extra money can be spent or saved for a vacation, or something else positive. Stay positive and don't get confrontational if at all possible, remember if you can explain snus and it's benefits to her, you can explain it to anyone...cuz she's pissed at you right now!!

    As for quitting cigs with snus, you will have to use an Ekstra sterk portion or lossnus to curb the cravings, at least I did. Once I went to several sterks or ES in a day, quitting smoking was easy bro.

    Good luck Jeff...let us know how it works out.

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    • EsotericPC
      Member
      • Mar 2009
      • 166

      #17
      Good luck to you! I would personally wait until a day or so AFTER the 15 year anniversary (congrats on that BTW!).

      Maybe you should tell her you have recently been doing hardcore drugs such as heroin and coke...After she gets a bit freaked out, just say "Ok sweetie, I haven't been entirely honest with you. It isn't drugs, it is snus."

      Since she probably got so freaked out when you said you were doing drugs, maybe she will be relieved when you say it is just snus? 8)

      I am just kidding about that part but seriously, I know my wife goes to bingo every weekend so I just tell her I spend almost as much as she spends on bingo, on my snus. That usually shuts her up.

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      • pangloss
        Member
        • May 2009
        • 183

        #18
        1) Do you consider yourself addicted to nicotine?
        If so then she should be be supportive of your methods of harm reduction and not criticize you.

        2) Do you have a job and contribute to the family income?
        If so, then you are entitled to have some of your earnings go towards things you like/need. It is not as though you have a coke/heroin habit where you spend massive quantities of money here...

        3) Does your wife ever get anything for herself?
        Clothes, shoes, manicures, hair appointments? Do you criticize her for wasting money? Are these not more expensive than your snus habit?

        I am positive that your wife has all the best intentions, however I am not so sure that she understands exactly why you are doing snus and how much better it is. Don't just tell her, show her! Or at least ask her to look at some of the research before making judgements.

        Lastly, pack a mouthful of snus before you talk to her. It will act as a mouthguard to protect you from anything she may throw at you/hit you with...

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        • ddandb
          Member
          • Mar 2009
          • 570

          #19
          Can you just lie and say there was more in the freezer then you thought?

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          • rickcharles606
            Member
            • Mar 2009
            • 2307

            #20
            Originally posted by ddandb
            Can you just lie and say there was more in the freezer then you thought?
            LMAO, or you could just say, "A buddy was holding this for me, in case of an emergency." I guess the buddy could be Frank from Northerner...ahahaha.

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            • RobsanX
              Member
              • Aug 2008
              • 2030

              #21
              Originally posted by Subtilo
              There are days where my wife uses more snus than me ... :shock:
              Me too! LOL! :lol:

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