Trouble with lös

[Sigg]

Dove headlong into the snus culture to beat the cancer sticks and I'm sitting at a month smoke-free at this point.

I've tried to quit many times in the past but snus has made the effort seem like an after-thought. Not only do I not miss the smokes, I actually feel bad for the smokers I now encounter because they haven't had the "enlightenment" that I've had (elitist much?)

Now comes the problem - I've fallen for the lös. Something about the taste, feel, and prep has got me hooked.....my wife hates it. Don't get me wrong, she has been super supportive in my quest to nix the cigs but she has made it clear that she isn't a fan of the loose tobacco. She is okay with the portions/whites because it's "neat/clean" but the loose is basically on par with stereotypical hillbilly chew or dip in her book.


She has even reluctantly revealed to me during a bar session that she thought my smoking was a little more sexy/manly in comparison to my new vice. :cry:


Now that I've laid it all down I'm not sure what I'm expecting as far as responses go for this topic. Just curious if anyone else has been in the same situation, and how they dealt with it.

[Mr. Snuffleupagus]

Man that's a tough one. I'm lucky my better half hated the smoking so much that she doesn't even complain about brown drool stains on the pillows.

I really think you should be able to do what you want. There is no perfect relationship. I'm sure there are things she does that you don't like and vice versa. I think that is normal and healthy in a relationship.

As far as ideas, I think pushing the "well I'm not smoking" thing is useful. You could even fake a relapse although I would vote for honesty. You could tell her portions are for girls, well that's not really true either.

There's got to be a way to get her more in touch with her inner hillbetty.

On a side note: Amazingly enough, they can change! Mine was very repulsed by the idea of nasal snuff. But after time she actually uses it once in a while now LOL.

Anyways, Good Luck!

Edit: Just thought of this. Tell her loose saves money!
More Loose = more shoes!

[sagedil]

Re: Trouble with lös

She has even reluctantly revealed to me during a bar session that she thought my smoking was a little more sexy/manly in comparison to my new vice. :cry:


Now that I've laid it all down I'm not sure what I'm expecting as far as responses go for this topic. Just curious if anyone else has been in the same situation, and how they dealt with it.

Umm....Just remind her that smoking will eventually make your wewe go soft. :lol: :lol: :lol:

[Sigg]

Heh - the sexual aspect didn't even occur to me, good point!

I've explained the money value about buying loose and she understands that. I guess it would be more apparent once I get out of the "newbie" phase and quit spending so much ordering/sampling new things.

I think it may just take time for her to get used to it. I can compromise a little as well by dialing back the pris size so I don't look as funny when I have one in.

I appreciate the feedback guys and the part about Mr Snuffle's wife and the snuff is promising. It's not causing any real issues other than her dislike and me feeling a little guilty about doing it anyways.

Thanks again!

[captncaveman]

Nothings more manly than throwing a wad of tobacco in 'yer mouth, then let the sissies marvel at you when you don't spit.

[lxskllr]

Nothings more manly than throwing a wad of tobacco in 'yer mouth, then let the sissies marvel at you when you don't spit.

That's what I was thinking. I'd say the manliest tobacco would be some kind of oral tobacco. I don't think snus gets the top rank; that would be leaf chew, it's up there though. Cigarettes may be the coolest, but not the manliest :^)

[MojoQuestor]

I'm with captncaveman--don't dial back on the pris size, just cram gobs of it in, hillbilly-style! How can that not look manly as all get-out?

I'm kidding--I guess :wink:

I mean, just watch this guy (you'll know which one):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gLgQD_6P6fI

[Snusdog]

Here is what I would do. I’d meet her half way. Talk with her and offer that for those times when you are driving together, out in public, or doing things together you will use portions. But when it’s your time, when you’re working around the house, watching the game, or fooling around on the computer- it’s los. That way she won’t have to be around it, you are respecting her feelings, and on those occasions when she does find you using los she can respect that that is your time and you are not sneaking or disregarding her.

Hope this helps

[Sigg]

Here is what I would do. I’d meet her half way. Talk with her and offer that for those times when you are driving together, out in public, or doing things together you will use portions. But when it’s your time, when you’re working around the house, watching the game, or fooling around on the computer- it’s los. That way she won’t have to be around it, you are respecting her feelings, and on those occasions when she does find you using los she can respect that that is your time and you are not sneaking or disregarding her.

Hope this helps

Excellent advice, plan on doing this tonight. Thank you!

[justintempler]

I like Snusdog's advice.

Sometimes women do not have the objection themselves they are more worried about what other people think of you (and then her in turn).
i.e. the neighbors seeing you with lös and then start labeling you and her as the neighborhood hillbillies.

[BatRastard]

I say next opportune moment whip out some nasal snuff, one of the real
nasty smelling ones, and snort up a couple lines. She should be ok with
the los after that, especially if you manage to direct a few righteous
sneezes her way!

Caution: The Sturgeon General warns that listening to, and/or accepting,
advice from a bat can and will be hazardous to ones health.

Bat
:twisted:

p.s.- not sure about the whole "manly" concept but can say the occasional
los does improve my flying mammal persona

[Cy]

Do something manly like wrestle a bear then when you win pop in some los. She'll soon associate it with you kickin ass.

[Sigg]

I may have worded it a little wrong in the beginning with the "manly" part. I don't think she views snus as more feminine compared to cigarettes. Sexy was the word that stuck out from the conversation, but I believe she meant it in the "cool" or "suave" sense of the word. At the time I took it as sexier = manlier but must admit she never said it was less manly.

But just in case, I'm off to wrestle a bear..wish me luck
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[CivilizedRedneck]

God i love this forum! always good for a chuckle (the bear fighting comment, not your issues with your significant other)

As far as the advice, i think snusdog is spot on.. Many times its the mere ACKNOWLEDGMENT of her feelings that will put the nag-fire out... Good luck man, hope she sees the light!!